Believing
(This is an excerpt from a University Of Metaphysical Sciences course at www.umsonline.org,
please feel free to visit the school website)
Believing in the Principles for Peace, Happiness and Permenant Change
- Practice self-restraint, don’t always express yourself. It requires courage and builds patience to stand our ground mentally, quietly.
- Practice kindness, not revenge. Loosen the grip on “telling the truth about how you feel,” and practice speaking softly, kindly and tolerantly in situations you would normally be angry in.
- Practice being gracious, not critical. Immediately resign from the post of pointing out to your spouse, children and whomever, what is wrong with them or how they do this or that. Say “thank you” at every opportunity.
- Practice self-examination, not blame. When any anger starts to develop, immediately say, “You are right. I was wrong,” and focus on where you might have contributed to the problem…even if it was only 1% of the problem.
- Practice surrendering, not dominating. Learn to let go of what you want, or want to happen. Learn to say, and think, “You might be right.”
- Practice feeling awkward, not natural. If we’re feeling awkward, it means we’re breaking out of beaten paths of behavior.
Communicate:
Communicate with these new phrases, developing new scripts. There are a series of phrases to use when any argument or disagreement develops that could trigger anger. The anger addict should immediately use one of the following phrases.
- You are right.
- I am crazy.
- I am bad.
- I am stupid.
- I am sick.
- I am wrong.
Obviously, no one would counsel these as self-assertive affirmations. They are used here because the anger addict must train themselves, until the addiction is broken, to immediately forestall any attempts to justify, blame, criticize or defend, as in, “You’re right. I must be crazy to say that,” and so on.
Again, this particular ABC approach is specifically designed for those who rage, and are addicted to rage. The author asserts that a large part of the male population are probably at some level addicted to anger.